Downsizing is great, but not when done under duress
By Sally Herigstad | Published: December 8, 2017
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Dear To Her Credit,
I need help making some financial decisions for my 79-year-old
mom who is currently in intensive care.
She has been in the hospital for three weeks following heart
surgery. Before she was hospitalized, she already had more bills than she could
pay with her Social Security benefits and part-time wages. She’s been using her
credit cards to stretch her budget for living expenses, and she now owes about
$70,000 on them.
We’ve been told that she will be in the hospital for at
least several more weeks. The bill must be in the hundreds of thousands by now.
My mom and dad plan to sell their home to downsize and try
to cut costs, but even if they do that they may not get ahead. They have about
$100,000 equity if the house sells at full market value. Mom’s cards have
ridiculously high interest rates with minimum payments of up to $450 on just one. This along with medical expenses
is beyond comprehension. Mom only has Medicare Part A for insurance coverage.
My dad is beside himself with worrying about my mom, and
trying to figure out how to find a new place to live and list the house,
especially with the holidays coming.
Do you have any advice on how I can help my mom tackle her
credit card debt, especially while she is hospitalized? It was hard for her to
juggle it all before she got sick – I just can’t imagine how she will manage
when she gets home. I appreciate any thoughts you may have. – Trish
This is not the time for major changes in your parents’
lives. Putting a house on the market, selling it, and finding another place to
live is stressful enough. If you try to do that while one of your parents is in
the hospital, it’s just too much. If your mom in ICU knows what is going on, the
stress won’t help her get well. Your dad, in the midst of perhaps the most stressful
time of his life, could jeopardize his own health by increasing that anxiety.
I know you want to do the right thing and help your parents
resolve their financial difficulties. However, I don’t believe selling the
house right now, especially in a hurry, is the answer.
Besides the pressure on your parents, here are some reasons
I wouldn’t sell the house now:
- The house probably isn’t ready to sell.
houses tend to have a list of deferred maintenance items as time goes by. That list of needed updates and repairs will drag down the price of the house, and then when the house is inspected for
the sale, your parents may be forced to fix them anyway.
When selling a home, it’s better to get
everything in shipshape first, in most cases. In addition, I’ve seen a rising
trend of staging homes, or something close to it, when the house goes on the
market. People may expect to be “wowed” when they walk into a house. That will
be a practically impossible look to keep up while someone is in the hospital.
- A home can be a legal safe haven.
In a worst-case
scenario, if your mom files for bankruptcy, state law provides some level of
protection for their residence.
- Downsizing doesn’t always save as much as people
By the time real estate commissions, closing fees and sales
tax, if applicable, are paid, sellers can lose 10 percent or more off the top of the home sale.
Then factor in fees, closing costs and moving expenses to get into a new
residence. Downsizing only makes sense when people move to a substantially more
economical living situation.
- Your parents can always sell the house later.
Major financial and life decisions should seldom be rushed.
The first thing your mom, or someone with power of attorney
for her, should do is call the credit card companies and explain the situation.
She should be able to get temporary
hardship relief while she is in the hospital.
As far as medical bills go, Medicare Part A covers 60 days
of hospitalization. After that, she has a daily co-pay. Your mom still has
over a month to go before she exceeds the first 60 days, so her bill may not be
as bad as you think.
For longer-term solutions to your parents’ financial
problems, do you know if they have looked into a reverse mortgage? I don’t recommend
reverse mortgages for every situation, mostly because of the fees, but in some
cases, they can be a good cash-flow solution.
When your parents are past this health crisis and ready to
tackle their debt situation, I recommend they get help sorting it all out. A
counselor from a nonprofit agency affiliated with the National Foundation for Credit Counseling or
the Financial Counseling Association of America
can help them look at their options, including debt negotiation and bankruptcy,
and find the best way to resolve their debts so they can enjoy their retirement
years as they should.
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