Credit rules for new widows

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Credit cards pose unique risks for women who have lost a spouse

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Credit rules of the road for new widows

Losing a spouse is often one of the most traumatic
experiences one can endure. For widows, the emotional toll can be compounded by
financial challenges and credit card debt.

Each year, more than 700,000 women in the United States
become widows, according to Widows
Well
, a service that strives to help widows
make sound financial choices. American
widows on average face a 37 percent decline in household income when their
spouse dies, while widowers experience only a 22 percent drop when their wives die,
the U.S. Government Accountability Office has found.

Carole
Brody Fleet learned firsthand how financially devastating a spouse’s death can
be when her husband died of amyotrophic
lateral sclerosis (ALS), a disease often referred to as  Lou Gehrig’s disease, that affects
nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord.

“I was that person where months would come where I had to choose
between the payment on my daughter’s braces or making a full mortgage payment,”
she recalls. “I was left in financial ruin.”

Credit cards: A help or a hindrance?

For widows
working with less money after their husbands die, credit cards can help smooth
the transition.

For example, if a widow doesn’t have the average $7,181 it costs to pay for a funeral, it might make sense to
charge it on a balance transfer credit card with a 12-month, 0 percent promotional offer and
take the year to pay the balance off.

However, if you’re using credit cards to make ends meet each month, debt
can quickly become overwhelming.

Credit card debt is one factor keeping women from having a
secure retirement, says Cindy Hounsell, president of the Women’s Institute for
a Secure Retirement. “They don’t have as much money to
save for the future.”

Indeed, total debt among women in their 50s and 60s has more than
doubled in recent decades, and the percentage of older women with less than
$25,000 in savings has also risen, according to a 2017 study
by the TIAA Institute.

Another risk is when widows use credit cards for
compulsive shopping to ease their grief.

“It can be a numbing agent, and the
next thing you know, you’re buying things you don’t need and you’re living
beyond your means,” says Fleet, who wrote “Happily Even After: A Guide to
Getting Through (and Beyond) the Grief of Widowhood.”

Well-meaning advice can even lead a widow
financially astray.

When Christina Polovich lost her husband of 13 years eight
years ago, friends and family would say things like, ‘You should buy yourself
something,’ or encourage her to buy things that would make her two sons happy
after their father died.

“Once a widow falls into the spending trap, it’s hard
to climb out of it,” Polovich says. “You lose yourself in the process of grieving
and spending. My spendathon lasted almost four years.”  

The problem with using spending as a bandage is it’s only
a temporary fix. “It all wears off and you’re still faced with grief, except
now, you’ve got credit card debt,” Fleet says.

Maintaining credit

While
money challenges can compound the grieving process, protecting your credit is
critical, says Martin Lynch, education director for Cambridge Credit Counseling
in Agawam, Massachusetts.

If you use your credit cards for some expenses, try
not to let your account balances get to more than 25 percent of the cards’
limits, and avoid charging anything that will take more than a few months to
pay off, says Lynch.

“Once a widow falls into the spending trap, it’s hard
to climb out of it. You lose yourself in the process of grieving
and spending. My spendathon lasted almost four years.”

“Building
or maintaining good credit will help you earn lower interest rates, saving you
money,” Lynch says. Widows can ward off financial disaster by taking the
following additional steps.

Managing money after becoming widowed: 5 tips

1.
Assess your education.

Some widows never managed the family finances
so they’re not only working with less, but they may have to learn the rules of
using credit wisely as they go.

If you’re in this category, a nonprofit
credit counselor
can help you prepare a working budget, review your current
obligations and ensure your near-term situation is accounted for, Lynch suggests.

You may also want
to consult with a licensed financial planner, and tax and insurance
professionals to make sure your long-term financial goals are met. 

2. Determine sources of income.

If you have enough money coming in,
you’re less likely to run up credit card debt.

Determine whether there is a life insurance policy for which you
are the beneficiary and contact other potential providers of income such as the Social Security
Administration, the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs or your spouse’s
employer.

If you have limited income and dependent children, you
may qualify for federal or state assistance programs, Lynch suggests.

Don’t
forget to reach out to churches or other organizations you belong to. “Many
churches have funds available for parishioners going through events like this,”
Lynch says.

3. Address your spouse’s debts.

Confirm that all debts for which
your spouse may have been liable to pay have been satisfied by the proceeds of
his or her estate.

If you’re not sure which debts you might also be responsible
for paying, talk to an attorney, Lynch says, particularly if you live in a community property state.

4. Update your budget to reflect your new reality.

Make sure your
budget reflects your current income and expenses.

If you’re not on your utility providers’ budget plans, enroll in
them, Lynch suggests. “You want your monthly budget to be as predictable as
possible.”

If you fall behind on your rent, mortgage or other bills, contact your creditors to try
to work out a payment plan.

5. Avoid impulsive spending.

To stop yourself from soothing
yourself into debt, avoid making new financial commitments, especially in the
immediate aftermath of the event, when people often make poor financial
choices, Lynch says.

When your
world is turned upside down by a spouse’s death or any traumatic situation,
give yourself plenty of time and patience to turn things around.

“Time may not
heal the wound opened by the death of your loved one, but it can give you
perspective on your financial options, especially if you’re patient and
conservative,” Lynch says.

See related: What happens to credit card debt after death?, Can an executor use deceased’s credit cards?, 4 common scenarios for card debt liability after a cardholder dies




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