Can I keep using ex-boyfriend’s card?


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No. Even if you once had permission, continued use is fraud

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Can I continue to use my ex-boyfriend’s debit card information to make purchases?

Just because you were once given permission to use your ex’s card while in the relationship, once the relationship ends, so does the right to use the card.

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Dear To Her Credit,
I recently just got out of a relationship with a male that was
always offering to help me out financially by letting me use his debit card.

I have left several Facebook messages to him in the past couple of months, offering to pay him back for what he’s paid for or bought me, but he
has always responded with, “Don’t worry about it,” or “I’m happy to help, and
it’s not a big deal.” He has never once told or asked me to pay him back for
any of it – the closest thing he has said was, “Do you plan on paying me back
for when I paid your car insurance when we were together? No, you probably
do’t have any intentions to.”

These are all in messages between the both of us in writing on
Facebook Messenger. He is also on Facebook Messenger giving me his permission
to use his card to pay my car insurance. I have proof from the messages that he
sent me his card number, the name on the card, the expiration date on the card,
the security code on the back, and the address for billing to the debit card that is
in his name. And ever since then he has not sent me one message in writing to
not use his card or money again.

Since he has not told me I’m no longer allowed to use the
information, and he willingly sent me over messaging to his checking account,
can I legally be taken to court or get in trouble, or be put in jail if I were
to use the information he gave me in the past to make purchases online from
here on out, hypothetically? I understand that once he does tell me that I am
no longer allowed to make a purchase with his information, then I could get in
trouble then legally. But until he tells me no or to stop charging his account
can I keep using his card without getting into trouble? – Tiffany

Dear Tiffany,
Yes, you can be charged and potentially sent to jail for using
your ex’s debit card. South Carolina criminal defense attorney Justin Lovely says,
“I would go as far to say that she could be arrested for the past use, although
her evidence would be a defense to later beat the charge. In South Carolina,
these actions would be considered financial transaction fraud.”

attorney Gustavo Mayen concurs, and says it’s better to be safe than sorry. In
Massachusetts, he says you could be charged with larceny by embezzlement
for using someone else’s card.

prove this charge, the prosecution has to prove three elements beyond a
reasonable doubt,” says Mayen. He says the prosecution would need to prove that
the following are true:

  1. You, while in a position of trust or confidence, were entrusted with possession
    of personal property belonging to another person.

  2. You took
    that property, or hid it, or converted it to your own use, without the consent
    of the owner.

  3. You did
    so with the intent to deprive the owner of the property permanently.

The privilege of using another’s card ends with the relationship

You say that you had permission to use the card initially, and you’re hoping if
he never says to stop using it, you can just keep using it. Common sense is not
on your side, I’m afraid. A reasonable person would assume that the privilege
of using the card ends with the relationship. According to both Lovely and
Mayen, the law is on the side of common sense in this case.

Lovely says, “At the time of the breakup, any permission was
revoked. She should not be using the cards for any purpose.”

agrees. He says that because you were allowed to use the card during the
relationship, it is a “question of fact” whether you are still authorized after
the relationship ends. “Because it is a question of fact, it would be a
question for the jury, should the case get to trial.”

addition to criminal charges, you could end up having to repay the money, Mayen

My advice: Destroy
all information you have with your ex’s debit card immediately. If you don’t
have the debit card information, you won’t be tempted to use it. You’ll get by
somehow without it, and you won’t have to worry about being charged with a
crime. Otherwise, making purchases on an account you no longer have permission
to use could be the most expensive mistake you ever make.

See related: What to do when permission to use a card is revoked, Can you be charged for unwittingly committing card fraud?

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